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Kenny Graves
Born in Oregon
39 years
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GOD BLESS WHITNEY, KAYLA & SAMI
I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today
I asked "What makes a Mother?"
And I know I heard Him say.
"A Mother has a baby"
This we know is true
"But God can you be a Mother,
When your baby's not with you?"
"Yes, you can," He replied
With confidence in His voice
"I give many women babies,
When they leave is not their choice.
Some I send for a lifetime,
And others for the day.
And some I send to feel your womb,
But there's no need to stay."
"I just don't understand this God
I want my baby to be here."
He took a deep breath and cleared His throat,
And then I saw the tear.
"I wish I could show you,
What your child is doing today.
If you could see your child's smile,
With all the other children and say...
'We go to Earth to learn our lessons,
Of love and life and fear.
My Mommy loved me oh so much,
I got to come straight here.
I feel so lucky to have a Mom,
Who had so much love for me.
I learned my lessons very quickly,
My Mommy set me free.
I miss my Mommy oh so much,
But I visit her every day.
When she goes to sleep,
On her pillow's where I lay
I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek,
And whisper in her ear.
Mommy don't be sad today,
I'm your baby and I'm here.'
"So you see my dear sweet ones,
your children are okay.
Your babies are born here in My home,
And this is where they'll stay.
They'll wait for you with Me,
Until your lesson's through.
And on the day that you come home
they'll be at the gates for you.
So now you see what makes a Mother,
It's the feeling in your heart
it's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start
Though some on earth may not realize,
you are a Mother.
Until their time is done.
They'll be up here with Me one day
and know that you are the best one!"
And prayed to God today
I asked "What makes a Mother?"
And I know I heard Him say.
"A Mother has a baby"
This we know is true
"But God can you be a Mother,
When your baby's not with you?"
"Yes, you can," He replied
With confidence in His voice
"I give many women babies,
When they leave is not their choice.
Some I send for a lifetime,
And others for the day.
And some I send to feel your womb,
But there's no need to stay."
"I just don't understand this God
I want my baby to be here."
He took a deep breath and cleared His throat,
And then I saw the tear.
"I wish I could show you,
What your child is doing today.
If you could see your child's smile,
With all the other children and say...
'We go to Earth to learn our lessons,
Of love and life and fear.
My Mommy loved me oh so much,
I got to come straight here.
I feel so lucky to have a Mom,
Who had so much love for me.
I learned my lessons very quickly,
My Mommy set me free.
I miss my Mommy oh so much,
But I visit her every day.
When she goes to sleep,
On her pillow's where I lay
I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek,
And whisper in her ear.
Mommy don't be sad today,
I'm your baby and I'm here.'
"So you see my dear sweet ones,
your children are okay.
Your babies are born here in My home,
And this is where they'll stay.
They'll wait for you with Me,
Until your lesson's through.
And on the day that you come home
they'll be at the gates for you.
So now you see what makes a Mother,
It's the feeling in your heart
it's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start
Though some on earth may not realize,
you are a Mother.
Until their time is done.
They'll be up here with Me one day
and know that you are the best one!"
Lessons in Life
I've learned that you can keep going long after you think you can't.
I've learned that learning to forgive takes a lot of practice.
I've learned that friends can become strangers, and strangers can become friends.
I've learned that ignorance isn't an excuse for the lack of compassion.
I've learned that some people will never, ever - "get it".
I've learned that the community of sorrow is the strongest of all.
I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I've learned that your life can be changed in a matter of minutes.
I've learned that learning to forgive takes a lot of practice.
I've learned that friends can become strangers, and strangers can become friends.
I've learned that ignorance isn't an excuse for the lack of compassion.
I've learned that some people will never, ever - "get it".
I've learned that the community of sorrow is the strongest of all.
I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I've learned that your life can be changed in a matter of minutes.
I've learned that I'm not invincible and "things that only happen to other people" can happen to me.
I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.
I've learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I've learned that love isn't measured by the amount of time you have with someone.
I've learned that some sorrow is so deep that it has no words. But so is love.
What has your child taught you?
I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.
I've learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I've learned that love isn't measured by the amount of time you have with someone.
I've learned that some sorrow is so deep that it has no words. But so is love.
What has your child taught you?
Just Say "I'm Sorry"
You don't know how I feel; please don't tell me that you do
There's just one way to know--have you lost a child too?
"You'll have another child"--must I hear this every day?
Can I get another mother, too, if mine should pass away?
There's just one way to know--have you lost a child too?
"You'll have another child"--must I hear this every day?
Can I get another mother, too, if mine should pass away?
Don't say it was "God's will"--that's not the God I know.
Would God, on purpose, break my heart, then watch as my tears flow?
"You have an angel in heaven--a precious child above."
But tell me, to whom here on earth shall I give all this love?
Would God, on purpose, break my heart, then watch as my tears flow?
"You have an angel in heaven--a precious child above."
But tell me, to whom here on earth shall I give all this love?
"Aren't you better yet?" Is that what I heard you say?
No! A part of my heart aches and I'll always feel some pain.
You think that silence is kind, but it hurts me even more.
I want to talk about my child who has gone through death's door.
No! A part of my heart aches and I'll always feel some pain.
You think that silence is kind, but it hurts me even more.
I want to talk about my child who has gone through death's door.
Don't say these things to me, although you do mean well.
They do not take my pain away; I must go through this hell.
I will get better, slow but sure--and it helps to have you near.
But a simple "I'm sorry you lost your child" is all I need to hear.
They do not take my pain away; I must go through this hell.
I will get better, slow but sure--and it helps to have you near.
But a simple "I'm sorry you lost your child" is all I need to hear.
~ Gail Fasolo ~
My Little Boy
For the little boy I'll never know,
Born too soon before he could grow,
There's nothing in this world I wouldn't give,
If only my little boy could somehow live,
But you were too precious for this world,
From Earth to Heaven, your place was filled,
I felt so warm, content inside,
My smile for you was hard to hide,
But now you're gone I sit and cry,
Why did my little boy have to die,
One day I know we'll meet again,
My heart will then be freed from pain,
But until that day does arrive,
In my heart you'll stay alive
~Author Unknown~
The Cord
We are connected,
My child and I, by
An invisible cord
Not seen by the eye.
It's not like the cord
That connects us 'til birth
This cord can't been seen
By any on Earth.
This cord does it's work
Right from the start.
It binds us together
Attached to my heart.
I know that it's there
Though no one can see
The invisible cord
From my child to me.
The strength of this cord
Is hard to describe.
It can't be destroyed
It can't be denied.
It's stronger than any cord
Man could create
It withstands the test
Can hold any weight.
And though you are gone,
Though you're not here with me,
The cord is still there
But no one can see.
It pulls at my heart
I am bruised...I am sore,
But this cord is my lifeline
As never before.
I am thankful that God
Connects us this way
A mother and child
Death can't take it away!
My child and I, by
An invisible cord
Not seen by the eye.
It's not like the cord
That connects us 'til birth
This cord can't been seen
By any on Earth.
This cord does it's work
Right from the start.
It binds us together
Attached to my heart.
I know that it's there
Though no one can see
The invisible cord
From my child to me.
The strength of this cord
Is hard to describe.
It can't be destroyed
It can't be denied.
It's stronger than any cord
Man could create
It withstands the test
Can hold any weight.
And though you are gone,
Though you're not here with me,
The cord is still there
But no one can see.
It pulls at my heart
I am bruised...I am sore,
But this cord is my lifeline
As never before.
I am thankful that God
Connects us this way
A mother and child
Death can't take it away!
Don't Tell Me That You Understand
Don't tell me that you understand, don't tell me that you know.
Don't tell me that I will survive, how I will surely grow.
Don't tell me this is just a test, that I am truly blessed.
That I am chosen for the task, apart from all the rest.
Don't come at me with answers that can only come from me,
Don't tell me how my grief will pass, that I will soon be free.
Don't stand in pious judgment of the bonds I must untie,
Don't tell me how to grieve, don't tell me when to cry.
My life is filled with selfishness, my pain is all I see,
But I need you and your love...Unconditionally.
Accept me in my ups and downs, I need someone to share,
Just hold my hand and let me cry, and say, "My friend, I care."
~Author Unknown~
Don't tell me that you understand, don't tell me that you know.
Don't tell me that I will survive, how I will surely grow.
Don't tell me this is just a test, that I am truly blessed.
That I am chosen for the task, apart from all the rest.
Don't come at me with answers that can only come from me,
Don't tell me how my grief will pass, that I will soon be free.
Don't stand in pious judgment of the bonds I must untie,
Don't tell me how to grieve, don't tell me when to cry.
My life is filled with selfishness, my pain is all I see,
But I need you and your love...Unconditionally.
Accept me in my ups and downs, I need someone to share,
Just hold my hand and let me cry, and say, "My friend, I care."
~Author Unknown~
Fluff Up the Clouds
Call Heaven there's an Angel
That's coming home today.
Our hearts are sad and broken
Because he couldn't stay.
Fluff up the clouds and lay him
Gently in Your care.
Place the tiny halo
Softly in his hair.
Our arms will never hold him.
Our lips will never kiss
The velvet of his cheeks.
We were not prepared for this.
In our hearts will be a tiny hole
Where always you will be.
Because we wanted you so much
Our hearts will always grieve.
How sad we had to lose you
We hope that this was best.
Sleep softly precious Angel
In God's eternal rest
That's coming home today.
Our hearts are sad and broken
Because he couldn't stay.
Fluff up the clouds and lay him
Gently in Your care.
Place the tiny halo
Softly in his hair.
Our arms will never hold him.
Our lips will never kiss
The velvet of his cheeks.
We were not prepared for this.
In our hearts will be a tiny hole
Where always you will be.
Because we wanted you so much
Our hearts will always grieve.
How sad we had to lose you
We hope that this was best.
Sleep softly precious Angel
In God's eternal rest
~ Author Unknown ~
I never knew, when you lost your child what you were going through
I wasn't there I stayed away.
I just deserted you.
I didn't know the words to say
I didn't know the things to do.
I think your pain so frightened me
I didn't know how to comfort you.........
And then one day my child died......
And you were the first one there,
You quietly stayed by my side, listened,
And held me as I cried.
You didn't leave, you didn't go
The lesson learned is.........
Now I know.
I wasn't there I stayed away.
I just deserted you.
I didn't know the words to say
I didn't know the things to do.
I think your pain so frightened me
I didn't know how to comfort you.........
And then one day my child died......
And you were the first one there,
You quietly stayed by my side, listened,
And held me as I cried.
You didn't leave, you didn't go
The lesson learned is.........
Now I know.
Author Unknown
Dear Mommy
Dear Mommy, I just wanted to let you know
that I made it home.
The journey wasn't an easy one,
but it didn't take too long.
Everything is so pretty here,
so white, so fresh and new.
I wish that you could close your eyes
and that you could see it too.
Please try not to be sad for me...
Try to understand.
God is taking care of me...
I'm in the shelter of His hands.
Here there is no sadness,
no sorrow, and no pain.
Here there is no crying,
and I'll never hurt again.
Here it is so peaceful
when all the angels sing,
I really have to go now-
I've just got to try my wings!
that I made it home.
The journey wasn't an easy one,
but it didn't take too long.
Everything is so pretty here,
so white, so fresh and new.
I wish that you could close your eyes
and that you could see it too.
Please try not to be sad for me...
Try to understand.
God is taking care of me...
I'm in the shelter of His hands.
Here there is no sadness,
no sorrow, and no pain.
Here there is no crying,
and I'll never hurt again.
Here it is so peaceful
when all the angels sing,
I really have to go now-
I've just got to try my wings!
~Darlene Browning~
I walked a mile with Pleasure; She chattered all the way, but left me none the wiser for all she had to say.
I walked a mile with Sorrow; and ne'er a word said she, But oh, the things I learned from her when Sorrow walked with me.
~ Robert Downing ~
Grief is like a River
My grief is like a river,
I have to let it flow,
But I myself determine,
Just where the banks will go.
I have to let it flow,
But I myself determine,
Just where the banks will go.
Some days the current takes me
In waves of guilt and pain
But there are always quiet pools
Where I can rest again.
In waves of guilt and pain
But there are always quiet pools
Where I can rest again.
I crash on rocks of anger
My faith seems faint indeed
But there are other swimmers
Who know just what I need
My faith seems faint indeed
But there are other swimmers
Who know just what I need
And loving hands to hold me
When the waters are too swift
And someone kind to listen
When I just seem to drift
When the waters are too swift
And someone kind to listen
When I just seem to drift
Grief's river is a process
Of relinquishing the past
By swimming in Hope's channels
I'll reach the shore at last
Of relinquishing the past
By swimming in Hope's channels
I'll reach the shore at last
~Cynthia G. Kelley~
A Mother's Grief
You ask me how I'm feeling,
but do you really want to know?
The moment I try telling you
You say you have to go
How can I tell you,
what it's been like for me
I am haunted, I am broken
By things that you don't see
You ask me how I'm holding up,
but do you really care?
The second I try to speak my heart,
You start squirming in your chair.
Because I am so lonely,
you see, no one comes around,
I'll take the words I want to say
And quietly choke them down.
Everyone avoids me now,
Because they don't know what to say
They tell me I'll be there for you,
then turn and walk away.
Call me if you need me,
that's what everybody said,
But how can I call you and scream
into the phone,
My God, my child is dead?
No one will let me
say the words I need to say
Why does a mothers grief
scare everyone away?
I am tired of pretending
as my heart pounds in my chest,
I say things to make you comfortable,
but my soul finds no rest.
How can I tell you things
that are too sad to be told,
of the helplessness of holding a child
who in your arms grows cold?
Maybe you can tell me,
How should one behave,
who's had to follow their child’s casket,
watched it perched above a grave?
You cannot imagine
what it was like for me that day
to place a final kiss upon that box,
and have to turn and walk away.
If you really love me,
and I believe you do,
if you really want to help me,
here is what I need from you.
Sit down beside me,
reach out and take my hand,
Say "My friend, I've come to listen,
I want to understand."
Just hold my hand and listen
that's all you need to do,
And if by chance I shed a tear,
it's alright if you do to.
By-Kelly Cummings
You ask me how I'm feeling,
but do you really want to know?
The moment I try telling you
You say you have to go
How can I tell you,
what it's been like for me
I am haunted, I am broken
By things that you don't see
You ask me how I'm holding up,
but do you really care?
The second I try to speak my heart,
You start squirming in your chair.
Because I am so lonely,
you see, no one comes around,
I'll take the words I want to say
And quietly choke them down.
Everyone avoids me now,
Because they don't know what to say
They tell me I'll be there for you,
then turn and walk away.
Call me if you need me,
that's what everybody said,
But how can I call you and scream
into the phone,
My God, my child is dead?
No one will let me
say the words I need to say
Why does a mothers grief
scare everyone away?
I am tired of pretending
as my heart pounds in my chest,
I say things to make you comfortable,
but my soul finds no rest.
How can I tell you things
that are too sad to be told,
of the helplessness of holding a child
who in your arms grows cold?
Maybe you can tell me,
How should one behave,
who's had to follow their child’s casket,
watched it perched above a grave?
You cannot imagine
what it was like for me that day
to place a final kiss upon that box,
and have to turn and walk away.
If you really love me,
and I believe you do,
if you really want to help me,
here is what I need from you.
Sit down beside me,
reach out and take my hand,
Say "My friend, I've come to listen,
I want to understand."
Just hold my hand and listen
that's all you need to do,
And if by chance I shed a tear,
it's alright if you do to.
By-Kelly Cummings
Somebody
Somebody said
it was all for the best,
that something was probably wrong.
Somebody said
it was all for the best,
that something was probably wrong.
Somebody said
it was meant to be,
Different verse,
same miserable song.
Somebody said,
"You can have another!"
As if that would make it alright.
Somebody said
"It was not a real child."
Somebody's not very bright.
Somebody thinks it is helpful
To say when grieving should end.
Somebody shows their true colors.
Somebody isn't a friend.
But somebody said, "I'm sorry."
And sat quietly by my side.
And somebody shared my sorrow
And held my hand when I cried.
And somebody always listened
And called my lost baby by name.
And somebody understood
That I'd never again be the same.
Just For Today
Just for today, I will try to live through the next 24 hours...not expecting to get over my child's death, but learning to live with it...one day at a time
Just for today, I'll remember my child's life, not his death, and bask in the comfort of the treasured days and moments we shared.
Just for today, I will forgive all the family and friends who didn't help or comfort me the way I needed them to. They truly did not know how.
Just for today, I will reach out to comfort a relative or friend of my child. For they are hurting too, and perhaps we can help each other.
Just for today, I will free myself from my self-inflicted burden of guilt. For deep in my heart, I know if there was anything in this world I could have done to save my child from death, I would have done it.
Just for today, I will honor my child's memory by doing something with another child, be it my own, or someone else's, because I know that would make my child proud.
Just for today, I will offer my hand in friendship to other bereaved parents, fo I DO know how they feel.
Just for today, I will smile...no matter how much I hurt on the inside...for maybe if I smile a little, my heart will soften and I will begin to heal.
Just for today, I will allow myself to be happy and enjoy myself, for I know I am not deserting my child by moving on.
Just for today, I will accept that I did NOT die when my child did. My life did go on and I am the ONLY one who can make that life worthwhile again.
~by V.Tushingham
My Mom is a Survivor
My mom is a survivor
or so I've heard it said
but I can hear her crying
at night when all others are in bed
I watch her lay awake at night
and go to hold her hand
she doesn't know I'm with her
to help her understand
But like the sands on the beach
that never wash away....
I watch over my surviving mom,
who thinks of me each day.
She wears a smile for others....
a smile of disguise!
But through Heaven's door I see
tears flowing from her eyes
My mom tries to cope with death
to keep my memory alive
But anyone who knows her knows
it is her way to survive
As I watch over my surviving mom
through Heaven's open door....
I try to tell her that angels
protect me forevermore
I know that doesn't help her....
or ease the burden she bears
So if you get a chance, go visit her
and show her that you care
For no matter what she says...
no matter what she feels
My surviving mom has a broken heart
My mom is a survivor
or so I've heard it said
but I can hear her crying
at night when all others are in bed
I watch her lay awake at night
and go to hold her hand
she doesn't know I'm with her
to help her understand
But like the sands on the beach
that never wash away....
I watch over my surviving mom,
who thinks of me each day.
She wears a smile for others....
a smile of disguise!
But through Heaven's door I see
tears flowing from her eyes
My mom tries to cope with death
to keep my memory alive
But anyone who knows her knows
it is her way to survive
As I watch over my surviving mom
through Heaven's open door....
I try to tell her that angels
protect me forevermore
I know that doesn't help her....
or ease the burden she bears
So if you get a chance, go visit her
and show her that you care
For no matter what she says...
no matter what she feels
My surviving mom has a broken heart
That time alone can't heal.
A Mother's Crown
Heaven lit up with His mighty presence,
As all the Angels looked down,
Today the Lord was placing the jewels,
In all the mothers' crowns.
As all the Angels looked down,
Today the Lord was placing the jewels,
In all the mothers' crowns.
As He held up a golden crown,
As all the mothers looked on,
He said in His gentle voice,
"I just want to explain each stone."
As all the mothers looked on,
He said in His gentle voice,
"I just want to explain each stone."
He held the first gem in His hand
But the radiance couldn't match His own.
For He was the light of Heaven,
Reflecting off each of the stones.
But the radiance couldn't match His own.
For He was the light of Heaven,
Reflecting off each of the stones.
"The first gem,"He said, is an emerald,
And it's for endurance alone,
For all the nights you waited up.
For your children to come home.
And it's for endurance alone,
For all the nights you waited up.
For your children to come home.
For all the nights by their bedside, You stayed till the fever went down,
For nursing every little wound,
I add this emerald to your crown."
For nursing every little wound,
I add this emerald to your crown."
"A ruby, I'll place by the emerald,
For leading your child in the right way,
For if you hadn't taught them about me,
They wouldn't be here with you today.
For leading your child in the right way,
For if you hadn't taught them about me,
They wouldn't be here with you today.
For always being right there,
Thru all life's important events,
I give you a sapphire stone,
For the time and love you spent."
Thru all life's important events,
I give you a sapphire stone,
For the time and love you spent."
"For untying the strings that held them,
When they grew up and left home,
I give you this one for courage."
Then the Lord added an amethyst stone.
When they grew up and left home,
I give you this one for courage."
Then the Lord added an amethyst stone.
"I'll place a stone of garnet," He said,
"For all the times you spent on your knees,
When you asked Me to take care of your children,
"For all the times you spent on your knees,
When you asked Me to take care of your children,
And them for having faith in Me."
"I have a pearl for every little sacrifice,
That you made without them knowing,
For all the times you went without,
To keep them happy, healthy, and growing."
That you made without them knowing,
For all the times you went without,
To keep them happy, healthy, and growing."
"And last of all I have a diamond,
The greatest of all gems,
For those mother's who lost their children,
When they came home to heaven before them."
The greatest of all gems,
For those mother's who lost their children,
When they came home to heaven before them."
"This is the most precious sacrifice, So I give the most precious stone,
For I know just how you felt,
I too lost a child of my own."
For I know just how you felt,
I too lost a child of my own."
After the Lord placed the last jewel in,
He said, "Heaven is now complete,
For every mother has her crown of jewels,
And all her children are at her feet."
He said, "Heaven is now complete,
For every mother has her crown of jewels,
And all her children are at her feet."
~Author Unknown~
| Memory-Of | June 13, 2009 |
This memorial website was created in the memory of our beloved one, Kenny Graves, who was born in Oregon on February 23, 1967 and passed away in Oregon on March 17, 2006 at the age of 39. We will remember him forever.
A son, father, fiance, best friend, mentor, inspiration and a gift.
I created this website because I know a lot of peoples lives have been affected by the devastating loss of Kenny. I wanted to do this to give myself, his family and friends a place to go that we feel like we can share with him. It helps me to know that his website will always be here and that any of us can come onto here and pay tribute to him any time we want and also read about the way Kenny has impacted so many lives even after his death. Please use this website to tell everyone something about Kenny while he was here or since he's been gone. It warms our hearts and we would be eternally grateful. I hope in some way this website helps all of you. Finally, please light a candle in memory of Kenny before you leave, it means so much to us to know you care.
Thank You For The Award Joan Taylor ((HUGS))
So Much Thanks to the family of William Scott Meyers for this graphic!
Thank you to Wanda & William Meyers mom!
ThanksTeri Drebit-
mom to Jaime.
THANK YOU FOR BOTH OF THESE DEBBIE - SIS TO RICK BULGIN
Thanks Amy for these three!
Please light a candle for Kenneth Clevinger.
If I Knew
If I knew it would be the last time
that I'd see you fall asleep,
I would tuck you in more tightly
and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.
If I knew it would be the last time
that I see you walk out the door,
I would give you a hug and kiss
call you back for one more.
If I knew it would be the last time
I'd hear your voice lifted up in praise,
I would video tape each action and word,
so I could play them back day after day.
If I knew it would be the last time,
I could spare an extra minute or two
to stop and say "I love you," instead
of assuming you would KNOW I do.
If I knew it would be the last time
I would be there to share your day,
well I'm sure you'll have so many more,
so I can let just this one slip away.
For surely there's always tomorrow
to make up for an oversight,
and we always get a second chance
to make everything right.
There will always be another day
to say our "I love yous",
And certainly there's another chance
to say our "Anything I can dos?"
But just in case I might be wrong,
and today is all I get,
I'd like to say how much I love you
and I hope we never forget,
Tomorrow is not promised to anyone,
young or old alike,
And today may be the last chance
you get to hold your loved one tight..
So if you're waiting for tomorrow,
why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes,
you'll surely regret the day,
That you didn't take that extra time
for a smile, a hug, or a kiss
and you were too busy to grant someone,
what turned out to be their one last wish.
So hold your loved ones close today,
whisper in their ear,
Tell them how much you love them
and that you'll always hold them dear,
Take time to say "I'm sorry," "please forgive me,"
"thank you" or "it's okay."
And if tomorrow never comes,
you'll have no regrets about today.
*Thanks to Jenny Tavendale*
*Thanks Maria-mom to Amore, Cara, Teressa & Pieta*
Thanks for the graphic Angie! Mom of Christopher Trevizo
How Long Will The Pain Last
How long will the pain last?"
a broken hearted mourner asked me.
"All the rest of your Life."
I have to answer truthfully.
We never quite forget.
No matter how many years pass, we remember.
The loss of a loved one is like a major operation.
Part of us is removed, and we have a scar for the rest of our lives.
As years go by, we manage.
There are things to do, people to care for, tasks that call for full attention.
But the pain is still there, not far below the surface.
We see a face that looks familiar, hear a voice that echoes, see a photograph in someone's album, see a landscape that once we saw together, and it seems as though a knife
were in the wound again.
But not so painfully.
And mixed with joy, too.
Because remembering
a happy time is not all sorrow, it brings back happiness with it.
How long will the pain last?
All the rest of your life. But the thing to remember is that not only the pain will last, but the blessed memories as well.
Tears are proof of life. The more love, the more tears.
If this be true, then how could we ever ask that the pain cease altogether.
For then the memory of love would go with it.
The pain of grief is the price we pay for love.
-Author Unknown
If Teardrops Were a Stairway
If we had one lifetime wish
One dream that could come true
We'd pray to God so hard
For yesterday and you.
The things we feel so deeply
Are the hardest things to say.
But we your family, love you
In a very special way.
They say memories are golden
Well maybe that is true.
But we never wanted memories,
We only wanted you.
If teardrops were a stairway
And heartaches made a lane,
We'd walk a path to heaven
And bring you back again.
A thousand times we've cried.
If our love could have saved you
You never would have died.
-Author Unknown
One dream that could come true
We'd pray to God so hard
For yesterday and you.
The things we feel so deeply
Are the hardest things to say.
But we your family, love you
In a very special way.
They say memories are golden
Well maybe that is true.
But we never wanted memories,
We only wanted you.
If teardrops were a stairway
And heartaches made a lane,
We'd walk a path to heaven
And bring you back again.
A thousand times we've cried.
If our love could have saved you
You never would have died.
-Author Unknown
*Thanks to Margaret*
IF TEARS COULD BUILD A STAIRWAY
AND MEMORIES WERE A LANE
I WOULD WALK RIGHT UP TO HEAVEN
TO BRING YOU HOME AGAIN
NO FAREWELL WORDS WERE SPOKEN
NO TIME TO SAY GOODBYE
YOU WERE GONE BEFORE I KNEW IT
AND ONLY GOD KNOWS WHY
MY HEART STILL ACHES WITH SADNESS
AND SECRET TEARS STILL FLOW
WHAT IT MEANT TO LOSE YOU
NO ONE WILL EVER KNOW"
~Anonymous~
If love could have saved you,
you would have lived forever
Thanks to Margaret for the graphic!
I have an angel on my shoulder
He whispers in my ear.
His voice is soft and gentle
And no one else can hear.
When I'm tired and lonely
It's comfort that he brings.
When I'm filled with happiness
I hear his laughter ring.
My angel's very close to me.
I even know his name.
And though I cannot see him
I love him just the same.
He now has no more suffering
And gone is all the pain.
I believe with all my heart
We will someday meet again.
An angel's job is taxing
It's as hard as it can be.
I hope he doesn't get too tired
Looking after me.
Yes, my angel's with me
from morning til the night.
I know as long as he is here
Everything will be alright.
So when my days are over
I'll not pass in fear.
I know my angel's waiting
To lead me home up there.
He whispers in my ear.
His voice is soft and gentle
And no one else can hear.
When I'm tired and lonely
It's comfort that he brings.
When I'm filled with happiness
I hear his laughter ring.
My angel's very close to me.
I even know his name.
And though I cannot see him
I love him just the same.
He now has no more suffering
And gone is all the pain.
I believe with all my heart
We will someday meet again.
An angel's job is taxing
It's as hard as it can be.
I hope he doesn't get too tired
Looking after me.
Yes, my angel's with me
from morning til the night.
I know as long as he is here
Everything will be alright.
So when my days are over
I'll not pass in fear.
I know my angel's waiting
To lead me home up there.
Loving You
Memories will remain my whole life through
Memories of happy times shared by me and you.
My heart will be a scrap book holding these times so dear
And I will remember them when I need to have you near.
My mind will be an album holding pictures of your face
An album full of pictures that time will not erase.
I'll think of you often , in my mind I see it all
An album full of pictures that I will always recall.
My arms may be empty but I can hold you tight
For my dreams will be filled with you each and every night.
My lips may not kiss you like they used to do
But I will whisper your name and feel the warmth of you.
My soul will be the vessel that keeps our love so pure
My soul will also help me with all I will endure.
For I know you're in Heaven and your soul is free
And in my soul I know just what you mean to me.
*Written especially for Kenny by Dianne*
Thank You Wanda & William Meyers Mom!!
Letter From Heaven
To my dearest family,Some things I'd like to say, but first of all, I'd like to let you know that I arrived okay. I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above. Here there is no more tears of sadness. Here is just eternal love.Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight. Remember that I am with you every morning, noon, and night. That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through, God picked me up and hugged me and said, I welcome you. It's good to have you back again, you were missed while you were gone. As for your dear family, they will be here later on. I need you here badly, you're part of my plan. There's so much we have to do, to help our mortal man."God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do. And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you. And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight God and I are closest to you...in the middle of the night.When you think of my life on earth and all those loving years, because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.Do not be afraid to cry, it does relieve the pain. Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.I wish that I could tell you all God has planned. If I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand. But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is over, I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.There are many rocky roads ahead of you, and many hills to climb, but together we can do it by taking it one day at a time.It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too, that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain, then you can say to God at night..."My day was not in vain."And now I'm contented that my life was worthwhile, knowing as I passed along the way I made someone smile.So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low; just lend a hand to pick him up as on your way you go.When you're walking down the street and you've got me on your mind, I'm walking in you footsteps only half a step behind.And when it's time for you to go...from that body to be free.Remember you're not going...you're coming here to me.
To my dearest family,Some things I'd like to say, but first of all, I'd like to let you know that I arrived okay. I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above. Here there is no more tears of sadness. Here is just eternal love.Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight. Remember that I am with you every morning, noon, and night. That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through, God picked me up and hugged me and said, I welcome you. It's good to have you back again, you were missed while you were gone. As for your dear family, they will be here later on. I need you here badly, you're part of my plan. There's so much we have to do, to help our mortal man."God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do. And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you. And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight God and I are closest to you...in the middle of the night.When you think of my life on earth and all those loving years, because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.Do not be afraid to cry, it does relieve the pain. Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.I wish that I could tell you all God has planned. If I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand. But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is over, I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.There are many rocky roads ahead of you, and many hills to climb, but together we can do it by taking it one day at a time.It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too, that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain, then you can say to God at night..."My day was not in vain."And now I'm contented that my life was worthwhile, knowing as I passed along the way I made someone smile.So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low; just lend a hand to pick him up as on your way you go.When you're walking down the street and you've got me on your mind, I'm walking in you footsteps only half a step behind.And when it's time for you to go...from that body to be free.Remember you're not going...you're coming here to me.
Thanks Brandy-mom to Julia Ann Corliss
THANKS FOR THE GRAPHIC DEBBIE!! SISTER TO RICK BULGIN
To My Beloved
You had a talent for bringing special meaning to life,
It was such a pleasure to be your wife.
You helped me to grow and to realize
The fullness and the beauty in our lives.
Every day I counted my blessings
Then God called, and you went away
Out of this world to a brighter day.
Suddenly my life of gladness
Turned to utter sadness.
My grief wears me down, I shed so many tears,
As I recall your love and devotion through the years.
For your sake and in memory of your name,
I pray for strength to do things the same.
To reach out, to fill the hours with useful ways
To comfort, to cheer and have no more empty days.
I try to console myself-it was God's greater plan,
So I must accept it, if I can.
You moved away to His splendid home above,
If there is life after death,
I know you will be waiting there for me,
With love.
Through Heaven and Earth divide us, and the distance is so great,
I count my blessings for the years you were my mate.
I will live my life remembering, while you wait slumbering,
My beloved, may you rest in peace.
MOM PLEASE DONT CRY
Mommy please don't cry...
A beautiful angel carried me here!
I met Jesus today, mommy.
He cradled me in his big, strong arms.
He made me feel so happy inside.
Mommy please don't cry...
Heaven is wonderful.
Did you know the streets are made of gold?
Real gold!
I have lots of friends, Mommy.
We run and play, we giggle and laugh.
I can't wait to show you my secret hideouts!
Mommy please don't cry...
When I fall it doesn't hurt!
There are no tears in Heaven.
I've met a man named Noah.
He told me about his big boat,
all the animals, and the very first rainbow.
Have you ever heard of Noah, Mommy?
Mommy please don't cry...
We have lots of parties here.
with streamers and hats,
and the best chocolate cake ever!
When it's time to rest, angels tuck us in.
I never get scared Mommy,
there is no darkness here!
Jesus is the light of Heaven.
Mommy please don't cry...
The angels are always singing.
I love to sing with the angels.
You'd be proud of me,
I have a pretty good voice.
I must have gotten it from you.
There is a river here,
in the most beautiful garden
you could ever imagine...
and a huge tree with yummy fruit.
The angels call it the tree of life.
Mommy, it's so wonderful to be alive in Heaven!
Mommy, please don't cry...
Sometimes I just like to be by myself.
That's when I think of you.
Someday Mommy, we will hold each other tight!
Then you will cradle me in you arms,
and stroke my hair...
And once again, our hearts will beat together.
Mommy, please don’t cry...
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